Community guidelines
How we expect people to behave here.
These are shown at onboarding and enforced in moderation. Breaking them costs you your account, and we do not usually give a second one.
Adab in every message
- Speak as you would if the person's father were reading, because he may well be.
- No flirtation, no compliments on appearance, no familiarity that would not be appropriate in person.
- Begin and end with salam. It costs nothing and it sets the tone.
- If a conversation is not leading to nikah, end it kindly rather than letting it drift.
Honesty about yourself
- Your age, marital status, children, health and existing marriages must be accurate.
- Do not present someone else's photograph as your own.
- If you are managing a profile for someone, say so. It is required, and it is shown.
- If you are no longer looking, change your status. Leaving a live profile up wastes people's time.
Respect for privacy
- Do not screenshot, save or share another member's photograph. Every photo is watermarked with your member ID.
- Do not press someone for contact details before they are ready to share them.
- Do not attempt to identify or contact someone outside the platform without their consent.
- What is said in a conversation stays in that conversation.
Involving the family
- A sister's wali may be present in any conversation. Treat that as normal, not as an obstacle.
- Do not ask someone to hide the conversation from their family.
- Proposals should move toward the families speaking, not away from it.
What is not permitted
- Asking for money, gifts, or investment of any kind.
- Soliciting members for a business, a cause, or another platform.
- Sending sexual content, or any content that would be inappropriate in front of a scholar.
- Creating a profile for someone without their knowledge.
- Harassment after someone has declined, or creating a new account to get around a block.
If someone breaks these
Report it. We read every report.
There is a report button on every profile, message, photo, question and Tazkiyah. Safety reports are reviewed within two hours. You will never be penalised for reporting in good faith, and the person you report is never told who reported them.